Does A Sinner Break Roots From Being Sinned?

Of late i seem to have come to a realization about this trait of mine i.e taking advantage of people who are 'close' to me. It did come under scrutiny previously from my friends, but i did not bother me then. It seemed to be lurking in my sub-conscious and the trigger effect happened one night drinking tequilla and having chocolates from this girl i was least bit interested in. I did not want to be there but i was. Lo and behold i was in convalescence mode. I kept wondering what shaped this intrinsic attribute. Surely i wasnt born like this, was i?

As i kid growing up in Coorg i was in a hostel at a real young age, i did not know what to make of the place as i was nearly 4 yrs back then and having no experience of such a gamut of social interactions. I was real naive and i thought the best way to survive was by adopting a people pleasing behavior. And boy was i wrong ,i was fleeced of my chocolates, my food etc. My end of the bargain was never met. Then there was this instance in school where i was framed for something i had not done. Then there was this other instance(s) where this boy from my neighborhood would make me steal biscuits from my own home.YEAH!HELL YEAH! I HAD BEEN USED!

This was intrinsic, could i say a lot of other people developed characteristics the same way as i?? Sure as hell yes, aint it? Everyone's personality is shaped by their life incidents. As to how much , it really can't be measured. In nature you see how some plants have tap roots and some others have fibrous roots. Pulling out a tap rooted plant is very difficult.They grow really deep into the soil making it nearly impossible to pull them out.In a garden we often see how dandelions grow right back up after we uproot them. It is because the tap-root would still be embedded in the ground. In contrast fibrous roots are easily dealt with as any gardener would tell you. I talk about this on a thought about how the bad experiences of our life are like the tap roots, they shape our personality. They are the one's that deeply influence our character. A lot of our learning happens from the worst years of our life. I am not denying the part played by those happy days, but i wouldn't say it made me what i am today. Those hard times that i have gone through in life are what stands out for me in my personality. It necessarily does not have a positive course but the influence would definitely be much more profound.